12 Strong Signs Aquarius man is using You – [BONUS] What to do with an Aquarius Man Player?

• By Dr Prabhukar Mishra
• January 4, 2023January 4, 2023

Do you feel that your Aquarius man is using you?  Well, You are not alone

As a fixed air sign, Aquarius men are highly bright, unpredictable beings. They may either make the world a better place or manipulate their environment to suit their desires using their bright intellect.

If you want to determine whether your Aquarius man is using you, you need to see those subtle signs in his behaviour.

Given the complexities and nuances of relationships, it may be difficult to determine whether your Aquarius man is using you deliberately or unknowingly.

In this article, we would outline those subtle signs that could be the indicators that an Aquarius man is using you:-

13 Signs Aquarius Man is Using You

1. Your Relationship Lack Deep and Meaningful Conversations

Aquarius men are kind, generous, and receptive to people they love, despite their reputation for being aloof, calculating, and pragmatic. When he’s into you, he’ll want to engage you in profound conversations to demonstrate his intelligence. He will also be eager to share his innermost ideas, aspirations, and objectives with you.

If an Aquarius man is using you, then all of your interactions with him are excruciatingly mundane, transactional, and superficial. If you are uncomfortable with this type of relationship dynamic, you must face your partner and straightforwardly convey your wants and desires.

2. He provides the bare minimum

Aquarius men are typically not self-centred. In truth, they have enormous hearts and are extremely generous. However, because they have a singular focus on the future, they do not prioritise their romantic relationships.

If an Aquarius man simply provides you with the bare minimum, he is only using you. Almost certainly, if you are reading this, you already know this. Relationships can be a terrific learning experience, but at some time you must let the lesson sink in, learn to take care of yourself, and select a life that energises you.

3. He is only interested in Sex

A clear indication that an Aquarius man is using you is when he solely contacts you for sexual activity. Aquarians are generally kind individuals, but they do not emphasise social ties because they have more pressing concerns.

When your relationship with an Aquarius man is mostly sexual, he is unlikely to be interested in a long-term commitment. This may not be a reason for concern if you’re the type of person who is also busy pursuing your aspirations and the lifestyle you desire.

4. He is not interested in your life

When an Aquarius man falls in love, he would be curious about every aspect of your life. He will inquire about your ambitions, desires, and favourite things to surprise you on special occasions.

If he does not inquire about your life, likely, he is not interested in a long-term relationship with you. People typically enter relationships because they desire to be recognised, cherished, and cared for. If your Aquarius man does not provide you with any of the above, you must be honest with yourself about whether or not you are prepared to put up with this type of relationship.

5. He seems cold and distant.

On days when an Aquarius man is not using you, he will be cold and aloof. Consider it a hint that he isn’t interested in pursuing a relationship with you if he doesn’t make an effort to check up on you or get to know you. If he is, he will let you know, and he will not make you feel like you’re nothing more than a booty call.

7. He is consistently short-tempered and irritable with you

 If your Aquarius man treats you as an annoyance, this is a strong indication that he does not care about how his words and actions affect you. When someone has experienced your troublesome traits, they frequently grow increasingly irritated by everything you do and may even lash out at you.

In relationships, people sometimes become so accustomed to one another that they feel safe being nasty around their significant other. If your partner is consistently short and irritable with you, you must assert yourself and establish appropriate boundaries.

8. He is impolite and inconsiderate

When an Aquarius man is uncharacteristically nasty and inconsiderate with you, he is likely using you. Despite their tendency to be emotionally detached, they still make an effort to sympathise with others. If an Aquarius man doesn’t share his dark side with you, he may be doing it to distance himself from you.

9. He does not care about You

This is a significant red flag if an Aquarius man does not attempt to make you feel special. If you find yourself resenting always being the one to provide, compromise, and exert effort, this is a desire for better treatment from your higher self.

If your Aquarius man doesn’t care about your needs, follow your intuition and respect yourself enough to leave if you’re being mistreated. Stop obsessing over a single individual and downplaying your needs and desires to be liked.

10. He does not include you in his Inner circle

This should be self-evident. If you’ve been dating for a while and he hasn’t introduced you to his friends and family, he’s not interested in a committed relationship. Unless he’s a recluse and an orphan, this is a clear indication that an Aquarius man is using you.

11. He avoids you in Public

Perhaps the most obvious clue that an Aquarius man is using you is when he doesn’t want to be seen with you in public. This is a poor indicator if an Aquarius man does not ask you on dates or introduce you to his friends.

It’s normal for Aquarians to keep their relationship quiet, so if he refuses to be seen with you, it may be because he’s already in a relationship or simply doesn’t want to be affiliated with you. Denial may be a bitter pill to chew, but it will only harm you in the long term. You must accept the facts and go forward.

12. He treats you like an ATM

Another glaring indication that an Aquarius man is using you is if he frequently requests money and turns you in to his ATM. If he becomes financially reliant on you, it may be time to let him get his act together.

When an Aquarius man is infatuated with you, he will undoubtedly be there for you and support you in your goals. If he doesn’t show up for you and just arrives when he needs something, he’s using you.

13. He Does Not Make Long-term Plans with You.

Men born under the sign of Aquarius have well-defined aspirations for the future. They have high objectives for themselves, and they painstakingly build a good plan to reach these goals. If an Aquarius man desires a long-term relationship with you, he will let you know. He will ensure that you have a place in his future and let you know how much you matter to him.

On the other side, if an Aquarius man is merely using you, he will deflect and avoid talking about the future direction of your relationship.

[BONUS] What to do with an Aquarius Man Player?

1. Put down your foot

If you want things to turn out the way you desire, you must begin by establishing clear expectations. You want him to stop treating you like a side girl and take you more seriously.

2. This is what you must convey to him.

Make it clear to him that the current arrangement is unacceptable.

He may have no idea that this is the situation. In this scenario, you are exposing him to possibilities he has likely never considered. And if he says he doesn’t want what you desire, it is time to proceed. renounce all intimacy.

3. Take Action

Either cut him off or seek other men, but refrain from making empty threats. Once this Aquarius man realises you’re serious, he’ll either end your casual relationship and stop talking to you, or he’ll kick every other woman out of his bed and choose to be with you.

4. Time to move on

If you have done all possible and the Aquarius man has not changed his mind, you must move on. If he has decided he is not interested, it will be difficult to convince him otherwise. In addition, allowing yourself to be strung along will not make a difference.

Editor’s Note

Aquarius men are often purpose-driven and career-oriented persons. Because of this, they rarely prioritise romantic relationships. Some even avoid it like the plague since they fear it’ll simply distract them from reaching their goals.

While it’s common in relationships to mutually be of service to each other, some people simply like to take more than they’re ready to give. If you feel that you’re the only one making an effort in the relationship and your partner is simply using you as a sex doll, chauffeur, or personal ATM, it’s best to cut your losses and move on as soon as possible.