Suffering from Lack of confidence? Help is on Your Way

“I always have doubts that my colleagues at office and my friends would not want to speak to me? I easily get nervous in front of them and feel totally blank. Sometimes I feel that I am being a pile on for them and they don’t really want to hang out with me. When it comes to women, these doubts double for me.”

Feeling anxious in giving a speech on stage, or having difficulty in accepting compliments, or having doubts about your ability to complete tasks, or feeling fearful that others might judge you, or not feeling that you are not good enough. All these are signs of lack of confidence and indicate that you need to work on boosting the same.

You must remember that low self-confidence is “not your fault”. There are many external and internal influences that lead to low self-confidence. These factors are different for each individual.

Family genes, background, experiences of childhood, shock and many other circumstances can play a role in influencing self-confidence. Although past cannot be mended, there are several ways to regain one’s self-confidence.

Signs and symptoms of low confidence

People suffering from low confidence generally tend to show certain kind of symptoms, here are some of them:-

• Self-doubt
• Lack of communication skills
• Feeling unworthy
• Fear of being judged in social circles
• Low self-esteem
• Poor body language
• Comparing yourself with others
• Negative thoughts
• Being critical of yourself
• Dependence on others
• Social anxiety

Causes of low confidence

Low confidence in people is certainly not without any reason. Here are some of the causes that can induce low confidence in people:-

• Tough parents/teachers

Growing up under critical elders and teachers can hamper one’s self-confidence in the early days. Lack of appreciation, encouragement and critical judgments can be absorbed by the children, which stay in their minds leading to low self-confidence.

• Constant Comparison

When we get compared in terms of appearance or academic or sports achievements with siblings, friends or peer groups then we starts doubting our ability. We starts judging ourselves with the yardstick of accomplishments held by others and start losing our own individuality.

• Trauma

Sometimes traumatic experiences of the past such as physical or sexual abuse, bullying, neglect by parents or bad relationships can dent our self-belief and confidence.

• Unhealthy thought process

Sometimes our brain gets stuck to certain belief systems and thought processes that are developed due to past experiences that we underwent. We fail to let go of our perspective and become rigid. These thought patterns could be related to anything including background, culture, education or religion.

• Family Genes

Some people are born with self-confidence and some lack it. It’s true that genetic makeup also somewhat makes up for the presence of self-confidence-boosting chemicals accessible to our brain.

• Temperament

Sometimes our confidence level is also dependent on our basic temperament. Some people are cautious and hesitant, especially during unfamiliar circumstances. This can be related to a tendency called “behavioural inhibition”.In such cases, in confrontation to new situations, one moves away or withdraws from the situation completely.

Apart from the above reasons, there could be a serious play of astrology in your kundali.

It is generally believed that your horoscope and zodiac are the mirror image of who you are and any changes in them can reflect in your personality hence, it is advisable to consult an astrologer to get this problem sorted out