Attention Couples: Know Why “Fexting” might not be a Good Idea
Fexting got a lot of attention after the First Lady of the United States, Jill Biden, said in an interview that she and her husband, President Joe Biden, fight over texts so they don’t have to fight in front of White House security.
So, what is Fexting exactly?
You’re Fexting if you fight with your partner through text messages to avoid a fight in person. So, in the end, it comes down to fighting or arguing over texts.
As smartphones get smarter every day, text messages are quickly taking the place of phone calls. Convenience is a big reason for this. A new study shows that many young Indians would rather chat than call when they want to talk.
What Do Experts Have to Say About Fexting?
Texting is becoming more popular, and this has led to both big and small problems.
Experts say that when you text, you lose the emotional essence of what you want to say. Even a simple “Good morning” can sound angry over text, let alone a fight. It’s better to talk to someone in person than to wait for a text and then try to figure out how they feel. It’s not a good way to come to any kind of conclusion.
One good thing about it is that it can help people who find it hard to deal with other people’s weak emotions. They could lose their cool or become very worried. For them, fexting could be a good way to get out of an argument.
Is it even good for a relationship to text?
Couples don’t just talk to each other with words. They also use sounds, sights, and body language, which can be lost in texts
Let’s say that one person in a relationship wants to talk about the problem in person. But if the other person’s defence mechanism is the plight, they would try to avoid a fight and text instead, or just sweep it under the rug, which could hamper the relationship big time.
Another downside to fexting is that when people text, they try to save their emotional energy. But fighting over texts doesn’t solve anything. If someone feels like their feelings are really getting out of hand, they should try to calm down first and maybe text instead. It is suggested that after you’ve calmed down, talk to your partner about what happened.
